This evening Mira and I went on one of the longest rides we've been on. :-) I was having some trouble getting her to relax and slow down, though, and she kept trying to lean on the bit. Without really thinking about it consciously, I closed my eyes for a few seconds, and just focused on relaxing and being very soft, but definite, with my hands, and it was amazing! I ended up doing that for quite a bit of the ride (we were on a quiet, open section of road) and it was just a fabulous ride. She was soft and calm, and we both had even more fun than we usually do!
After I got home, I remembered reading somewhere that riding with your eyes closed could help with developing your feel - I cannot remember who said that, but they sure were right! Just do it for a few seconds at a time, and see what happens!